Before anything else is established, let us first go over one thing. Women are not delicate flowers. They do not need you to do anything for them. They are perfectly capable human beings who are able to handle their own problems. Life isn't a fairy tale; women aren't dainty maidens waiting for a knight in shining armor to come along and make everything okay. But, they certainly wouldn't mind if one did.
A lot of men have the notion that women need a man to open jars, do yard work, and fix anything that may be broken. This is not true; a woman does not need a man the same way a man does not need a woman. However, when a man and a woman share a connection, something happens on a biological level and suddenly the man and woman want to do things for each other for completely and utterly selfless reasons. As a man, you should enjoy the company of a woman. Her feminine body is a perfect contrast to your masculine one, and just having a woman around should make any man feel better. This however, does not mean she wants to give you sex. Just because you have a penis and she has a vagina, it does not mean that somehow they were destined to fit together like puzzle pieces. If you are a true man and treat her well; with respect, patience, kindness, and care, then maybe she will want to have sex with you.
But make no mistake, no man should ever pressure a woman to have sex. A man who does such a thing is no longer a man. He is a little boy trapped inside a man's body, thinking that because he bought a woman dinner, she now owes him something. A woman will never owe you sex, regardless of what you do for her. As a matter of fact, looking at the bigger picture, no one will ever owe you anything, regardless of what you do for them. Let's say your neighbor's name is Jim, and you helped him move. Does he have to help you move? No, he doesn't. Would it be the decent thing to do? Yes. But that doesn't mean he is obliged to do it. Being a man means realizing that sometimes you do things for people and don't get anything in return. Men should always gauge whether or not something is worth doing based off the idea that you will never get anything in return. Being selfless is a good thing, but not always.
But back to the topic at hand, there are those (women) who would take advantage of kindness and desperation by letting men buy them meals and jewelry with the hopes that they will get to bed her later. While this is wrong on the woman's part, the man also shares fault. One, no man should ever assume the way to a woman's bed is with money and gifts. Two, all men should be able to recognize when they are being played. Three, dinner and jewelry? Be original. These types of women do not deserve your respect and should be treated in accordance as such.
Let us assume, for the sake of this post, that the man and woman are both decent people who would not try to take advantage of the other. They do not know each other that well, and would like to get to know each other better. How should a man treat this type of woman? In general, all men should act like gentlemen towards women they do not know. Again, while women don't need doors held open for them or umbrellas held up for them, it is just the decent thing to do.
That does not mean that a gentlemen should be gentle. Do not be a pushover and just blindly follow everything she says. Be a man; have your own thoughts and opinions about things. If you disagree with her, tell her you disagree, but don't start telling her your way is better or that you are right; simply state your point of view and move on. If you don't like something she is doing, let her know. Whether she stops or not is out of your control; you cannot make her do anything she doesn't want to do, but it cannot hurt to express how you are feeling.
As stated above, women are not delicate flowers that wither and fall apart at the slightest touch. Be a decent human being. Be kind and courteous; have manners. Treat those around you, who deserve it, with respect. But more importantly, treat yourself with respect. You do not need a woman any more than a woman needs you. Anything she can do for you, you can do for yourself. If a man wants others to respect him, he must first respect himself, flaws and all. Why would a woman want to be with a man she does not respect?
A real man does not need a woman in his life for anything, but of course, a real man would prefer to have the love of a good woman than to go without it, because a feminine presence is universally enjoyed by all men. Not all men enjoy it for the same reasons, but a true man enjoys it for what it really is; a warm touch, a gentle smile, and a loving embrace. And really, could you ask for anything more?
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